Alright ladies who have done this whole wedding business before, insight needed!
OK, our wedding is going to be small-ish, and pretty low key...which is what we both wanted. Neither want a huge deal made, and don't want the day to be about the wedding instead of us being happy and married and blah blah blah.
So when I say small-ish, we can have 80 guests in our venue. I have 8 aunts/uncles on my dads side, and all but one have not acknowledged me (nor our 3 year old) for about 4 years. Question is, how do I invite the one aunt I love and not expect the rest to get pissed? My DF has the idea of screw them, and basically asked me what I have to lose by making them mad? He has a point, like I said, communication is already non-existant, it's not like I lose much you know? The only thing I was concerned about was hurting MY dad's feelings, as they are his siblings....so I talked to him and explained my side, and he assured me he understood and that he was ok.
I hate this part of it. Even though I probably dont need to, I feel guilty for not wanting to invite them...did any of you deal with anything like this??

I would invite them all, they may or may not come-probably won't. You would be taking the high road and leaving it up to them to make the decision to come or not. You will be guilt free and conscious clear.

If dad understands that is the most important thing. If you invite them they might come out of spite and nit pick the entire time.

I'm with hubs on this one, forget about them! I had a wedding that size too, it was just right


Happy wedding!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm with your FH!!!

I too have family issues and I share my life with who I want!

Haven't spoken to my mom in yrs, my dad even longer. I was asked if I was upset that they weren't at my wedding and honestly, I wasn't not one bit!

I think this is the nice thing to do. I had plenty of people show up at my wedding I didn't really care for, but nothing detracted from the joy of marrying the love of my life! I think you may feel the same!

I would just invite them all too

From just going through this ourselves, make sure you have room in your venue in case you do invite them all, and everyone does say yes. Talk about stress.

Then taking what boston has said I would do your guest list and then after you two cover who you want there for a fact if there is room for them then send a invite and no harm done if they come they come if they dont they dont....

Thanks for all the input ladies...you have all made good points...I hate this part.
The thing is, with a venue this small, I would be sacrificing people that I DO really want there and who are involved in our lives to send these aunts/uncles invitations and them doing the unlikely and actually coming. If I had more space/etc I would invite them all just to take the high road...it's just hard when to invite them would mean leaving out others who probably have more right to be there...
I am SO leaning towards a courthouse right now...:)

Then i would make sure those who are the most important to you are there and forget the rest.... its your day so make sure the important people in your life are there. I didnt get to invite all my moms brothers and sisters just because there are 15 of them nor my dads that there are 11 of and everyone understood. you just cant let it stress you this is your happy time. ...