+1!

We didn't get to invite some dear friends because of how we had to do the guest list and our venue only holds about 80 too... if we could do a do-over omg we would change so many things. Just make sure YOU and your FH are happy, that's all that should matter

Or you can send invitations earlier to all the people you really want. Get some idea of how many are coming before you send the "second string" of invitations out.

Poppy has a terrific idea with that....

this is what we did we had a limit of about 40 so it was tight as My family is HUGE!
This was also helped a bit by doing a destination, which none of those people who we never talk to woudnt got anyway. OH you can't make it?? aw thats too bad...
Actaully they never even RSVP to us they just told my dad they wouldn't go.

I didn't invite everyone we knew to our destination wedding, the main reason being that the chapel only held 50 ppl, plus we wanted to stay on budget as best we could. We ended up with 60 ppl there with a few standing during the ceremony. One person we didn't invite was my sis' sil. After she realized she didn't get an invite she was like, "I want an invite! I want to go!!!" So I sent her an invite as I didn't want to hurt her feelings. Well, she didn't GO! lol! She just wanted to be invited so she could decline.

I'm not sure what you should do, but if you don't want to invite someone, I say don't. You are the one who has to remember your wedding for the rest of your life. I invited that girl when I really didn't want to and I am the one who got jabbed, lol.

There was also one person I didn't want to invite, but felt obligated to. He did go and brought his gf and they proceeded to get married on the same day as ours - by the JoP right before our wedding, and then proceeded to have their reception at our reception since all his family happened to be at ours, too! They showed up in jeans and t-shirts, lol!!! OMG, I hate weddings, I really do. Elope! Elope while you still can!!! Forget everybody else!

LOL @ flashfrenzy! I KNOW! Believe me, if it wouldn't have been for the few people we want there pretty much more than anyone who can't travel (grandparents) we would SO be out of here. And those people who came to your wedding are lucky it wasn't mine...I would not have been at ALL gracious about that. Good god, it amazes me the lack of tact some people have.
Poppy, that is a good idea...I was also kind of thinking of that, just a little less formally by feeling out those that I do really want there, giving them the date etc..and so far that's been going ok. I like the invite idea though, I'll have to keep track after this first round goes out.
I guess after weeks of thinking and sressing about it, I'm kind of leaning towards the "whatever, I dont care, dont come" side...sad thing is the reason they don't have much to do with us is because we had our baby before we got married. Which is SO frustrating...yeah, not exactly perfect order, but who cares. Well, they do apparently. Sigh. Family sucks.

That is CRAZY RUDE... lol! I can hardly believe how some people act sometimes... honestly! What the heck!?

I think it all depends on you. It's you and your boytoy's day. If you're gonna lose sleep over not inviting them, then do it. On the flip side, if you think they may try and ruin your day (and have the ability to succeed) then brave their hurt feelings. I personally won't be inviting many of my family members because a lot of them are absolutely crazy and mean (I'm convinced one of my aunts hates me because she was in love with my father and I'm the product of my mother and father's love - screwy, huh?) and I'm okay with that. My bff is a lot sweeter than I am and forgiving too, she'll probably invite everyone to her wedding and be happy about it.

lol@ flash! you kill me!

personally i would not want people who are so judgmental about my life choices at my wedding. I would say good riddance, but that's me.

Your dad is OK w/ it, your fiancee is OK with it, you'd have to trade people you care about and support you for people who DON'T -- Sounds like all that's left is for you to be OK with it!
Don't invite them. (my2c)