My husband and I have known each other for almost ten years and were best friends for seven years before we finally decided it was right to be more.
Our 2nd anniversary is coming around the corner and even though I love him so dearly, not a day goes by that he doesn't say, do, or NOT do something that makes me want to strangle him. Lol.
He comes from a semi long line of military fam, so is very "manly" and DOESN'T LISTEN TO ME!! I am aware that we are partners and equals and neither is superior but (scoff) c'mon. There is a LEGITIMATE reason the saying is "happy wife, happy life"
I am a sahm and he works long hours.
ALL he has to do when he gets home is listen to me. (and I do NOT ask or demand much, I know and appreciate all he does)
He literally does not have to even think, just do what I ask lol
He either has a bad memory or just doesn't give a poop. I'd love to think.it's the latter so that I can snap at him, but his memory really is horrible. Sigh.
But if he would just do what I ask WHEN I ask, it wouldn't take him 4 days of forgetting! Am I wrong in thinking that
*grumbles* I suppose.
Turns out we have different love languages.
Sigh. Enough venting.

I suggest this survey/site that a friend in counseling recommended



http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/love/

Good luck and let me know how it goes, we took it this weekend and are trying to learn to speak the others lingo.
I'll keep anyone interested updated with our process. I mean "progress" lol (;

My dad and stepmom took the love languages test...and they are completely different. Unfortunately, they don't seem to be taking that into consideration when communicating or interacting with each other...breaks my heart to see how unhappy they both are. I'm a firm believer in it. It makes so much sense! Good luck with you and hubby...he took it willingly, so maybe he's eager to try! That's a good sign!

I am taking a course based on the 5 love languages... It teaches you to basically listen to the other person and also helps you identify their love language so you can provide love for them in a way they can feel loved and acknowledged, while at the same time being assertive in expressing your needs and getting the love you deserve and want... I'm halfway through it.

I think a lot of women have that problem with their fellas, either they don't listen carefully enough or they won't just listen without wanting to take action to FIX things. I took a course for my Masters when my FH and I first started dating that reviewed the 5 love languages. I absolutely love it and know it's helped lots of people bridge the distance. You can figure out how your husband is showing his love to you (using HIS language until he learns yours) and also what his LL is so you can show him you love him. I will say that in 5 years with my FH my LL has changed twice-poor guy. First it was acts of service and now it's words of affirmation. It works with all the other people in your life too-sometimes you just have to figure out what their LL is without giving people a formal assessment!

I have never heard of "Love Languages", so thank you for sharing the link! I've been married for almost seventeen years and I know my DH and I would score on opposite ends of the spectrum. That being said, opposites do attract!