Another update now for this saga of "As My Friend's Ring Turns."
We've altered our plan at the Nth hour. The Boy was ok with the DeBeers style three stone above. But he admitted disappointment at not being able to get trellis prongs because they all got too high, and he was overly stressed about not including a matching wedding band because it put him over budget.
Then I found IT. A setting that includes trellis prongs while still maintaining a relatively low-set profile, and that has a sculpted shank to look like multiple bands together so that it solves the extra wedding band issue.
It's a mere $11,000 over our budget from the original seller. I'm riddled with guilt over how much we've put poor Poppyseed through, but I sucked up my guilt and asked her if Alb could make it with the stones we already have in motion and a few tweaks to the shank to get it into our budget. Bless their patient and understanding hearts, they said yes!
A week and a half ago, The Boy was resistant to this whole thing, anything beyond a plain solitaire was "weird," and he didn't know a single jewelry term. Now he's saying things like, "I wish we could find a low-profile trellis setting. She'd really like those elegant prongs and how they combine with the shank." I feel like I've successfully raised a child! I am so proud!
The Girl is going to freak when she learns that The Boy designed this for her. As he saw and learned more, he started forming his own opinions instead of needing me to tell him what to think. When he liked something, I searched for images that incorporated it. In the end, the different aspects of this new plan were all his choice and not mine. I can't tell you what a relief that is for me. So happy!