That actually takes some serious b...s...I don't think she has a clue how serious of an issue and mistake she is thinking about making.
Not only is she not ready to be engaged, she is definitely not ready to be married. If she thinks she can start a marriage with a lie of that magnitude, she needs a shrink not a bigger stone. If she thinks any jeweler will trade an even swap out for a bigger stone of less quality/grade she is mistaken. Most of you will recall my severe painful walk down stupid lane w/my ER saga brought on by myself (no i did not nor would I ever try or even think to decive my husband)non the less I caused us both heartache over the entire issue. Glad a lot of woman told her not to do it-she would regret it had she went through with it.
MissKK you are 100% right about the lack of seriousness over marriage.

Someone suggested she "wait" and get an upgrade. Like, a ONE YEAR FROM THE ENGAGEMENT DATE upgrade. Why wait until you get married, right?

By the time they reach their 10th, she won't even be able to lift her hand.

Guess what Nikki?? Your OECs are here!!!!!

My husband would be SO mad. Not because we attach a ton of sentiment to items like jewelry, but that's just... deceitful.

WOOHOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!

I know considering he obviously did his homework and bought the best he could afford which turned out to be excellent, and now shes acting like it isn't good enough. Makes you wonder about that.

I got engaged with a .10 pointer from sears, I was so happy to be in love, I gave zero thought at the time to the size of the stone.

Well, I did not post it on the bee since it would be snarky, but I really did want to call the OP out a little more about what kind of relationship she has to even be considering this, including the points you made about not being ready to be engaged or married.

I am all for communicating if you are not happy with your ring. I did not have an ering, but I DID decide I did not like my wedding ring...the one that he put on my hand when we said our vows...shortly after we were married. And I TALKED to my husband about it. Was he a bit sad? Yes, initially, as he is more sentimental than I am. But it all worked out great as he is far more sentimental about me having something I love to wear and enjoy as much as he adores his ring than about the ring being the exact same ring that was there whenever. Our rings are there to honour & symbolize our commitment, and they can be in whatever form we want because of that. The strength and bond we have does not come from our rings. Maybe if she talked to her FI, he would be on the same page. Maybe not, but then they could come to some other agreement where they are both on board and BOTH KNOW WHAT IS HAPPENING!

It is terrible to me she would however wear a symbol of her lie everyday as she went through her marriage!

I am appalled that someone said she should totally go for it and encourages this sort of thing. Sadly, I am not exactly surprised from that poster, but how the hell does anyone think lying to your supposed life partner is "totally okay!".


Also, a shady jeweler would probably totally trade her stone for a poorer quality one they could not sell (or would not get very much for). They can totally tell when someone is more concerned about size and is rather uneducated about the other 3 C's. However, unlike her, it sounds like her FI probably DID educate himself a bit and is not going to be so fooled by her trying to pass off a larger, lower quality diamond for her the same ring he bought her. If I was him I would be wondering if a store had swapped the stone, etc and if she continued the lie..then what? He gets in trouble for filing a false insurance claim or going after the jeweler who had nothing to do with it?

I wanted to squeeze a bigger center stone into my wedding ring because I had serious shrinkage. It was .50 with .25 sides (I loved the platinum Tacori setting so much!) The center was bezeled so I thought I could take out the bezel and add prongs. I mentioned this to hubby what I wanted to do and it really did bother him. Didn't do it, but barely a year later my ring was stolen. Man!! I would give up all jewelry to have that ring back. Truly! No other piece of jewelry compares to the sentiment that that ring had! That girl with a $17,500 engagement ring...fo' shame it's not good enough for her. She's got tons of future anniversaries to get her dream ring. Have some patience, geez, lol.

I find WB a bit scary but it told me about moissanites so I'm glad I joined! This is not the best thread for a 'first time' post but looking at the ring board over there has made me feel quite intimidated and a bit ignorant considering I do not own any jewellery except a couple of Lola Rose bracelets and silver rings. Just posting over there to ask a question can make you feel like a dimwit.

Lurking here, otoh, has helped me quite a bit so thanks, ladies!

Just wanted to say "Welcome BeeH"!