Thanks for all of the comments, I really do appreciate them.
Well.... I took the setting back and got a different one (Sparklee - turn away, you will probably hate this one even more) .. lol...
Some of you may think it's still similar to my other rings, and in a way it is, but in a way it's not.
This setting was way less money than the other one.... partly because it's 14k instead of 18k and partly because there is a lot less in diamond weight. The diamonds are still white and sparkly, but are VS instead of VVS and smaller.
It's still blingy, but has a much smaller presence on my hand...
I bought this one with the thought in mind that it may not be the forever home for the stone, and beings that it's made for a 9x7 stone, I'll have lots of options for stones if I want to swap out the mahenge someday if and when I find a setting that knocks my socks off.
I took these photos quickly in my office which has yellowy recessed lighting, so the diamonds looks cloudy, but they aren't and the stone is balancing on top of the prongs, so it cockeyed.
Please feel free to be honest about this one also.... if you like or not, my feelings won't be hurt, however I am going to keep this one.... even if it's not a forever home for the mahenge.