+1 it's nobody's business whether you were a real diamond or an alternative just as Hadley does not like diamonds or the industry I dislike rude behaviour to ask if soemthing is real or imply that there is something wrong no matter what your personal choice to wear is.

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lol yeah I plan on going with something like that as well "of course its real - you can see it on my hand, cant you? its not a hologram" because its a ridiculous question for anyone to ask and it deserves a ridiculous response.

This kind of reminds me of having lunch with a circle of friends who span the arc of vegan, vegetarian, and carnivore. Everyone has their own reasons for their choices and they are all equally valid. The vegetarian shouldn't judge the chicken eater as crude, any more than the dairy eater should judge the vegan as elitist.

Champagne -- do what makes YOU comfortable. There is no right or wrong, provided you are not compromising yourself to fit in or compromising others in reverse. Whether you eat the salad or the burger, just enjoy the meal.

You know me, or are getting to know me and my humor....I would have to be a smart@ss if someone asked if my ring was real. I would say "are your teeth?"


ok...that's over the top but it made me LOL

I wouldn't tell either.

Your husband wanted to buy you a large diamond and it may make him feel uncomfortable if your family think he has bought you a "fake". You have got the best of both worlds, a huge sparkly rock that you can wear confidently in your circle and the money in the bank for more important things

I love telling people about my Asha, but only if it is appropriate to do so. If I get a compliment in passing, I'll just say "thank you", but if I have the time I want people to know that my ring is gorgeous, and it isn't a diamond.

I've told my mother (who is always on the lookout for a good buy and doesn't even have an engagement ring herself, so she's not snobby) that my centerstone is a moissy. It's probably a good thing I did, because she's been worried that my fiance put himself into debt paying for it! I also told my best friend, who's not judgmental at all. I'm sure over time I'll tell other people, but I'm not planning on shouting it to the world. I don't really care, but I don't want other people to think that my fiance was cheap when he would have been perfectly content to spend more money and get a diamond - it was me who wanted a sim, and by doing so I was able to get the gorgeous setting I wanted.

No one ever asks anyhows.

I once heard that you are never really free until you stop caring what people think or say about you. I'm seriously working on that. I think being 52 and on the arc of menopause def.helps.

olivejuice- I like your respone about the teeth being real, knowing me w/my biting sense I would be tempted to ask "are your b**bs real?"

In general I think this is true, even broadly applied. But the people I love most challenge me to be a better person. I DO care what they think about me. More than not caring about what people think/say it's a matter of knowing whose opinion to consider and not needing approval/reassurance from people who don't matter that much.

On the flip side, we sometimes compromise for the sake of important relationships. If it was a big deal to my mom/sister that my ring is 'fake' I may be willing to let them think it is real. Not because I need their approval but because it just isn't worth debating if that is the sort of thing they value and I don't. For the sake of the overall relationship I can let it go.