This is the way I see it....this is a ring you are going to be wearing for the rest of your life, it should be what you want...however, that being said I think a lot of women on these boards ( please, I mean no offense to anyone) do get obsessed and it just snowballs out of control. A ring does not make a relationship..yes, it's a symbol of your love and commitment to each other, but the size/shape/color in the long runs means nothing.
Don't get sucked into all the craziness here. Yes, I love jewelry..but it's not worth upsetting my dh/significant other over. If your fiance is starting to get upset...it's time to back off and be happy with what you have. Eventually, he's just going to snap..you want to have happy thought about your e-ring..not how much you fought about it etc.
If your fiance didn't care, I would say just go for it and do whatever..but if he's starting to get irritated...maybe enough is enough?
Sorry, I know I didn't sugar coat this much, but there seems to be too much of that now days. Good luck on whatever you decide to do...I'm sure either ring is beautiful!
Megan

Ms A- I feel for you and I'm so sorry that you guys are going through this stuff right now. I basically agree with almost everything thy everyone has already said, but I will say that I personally can get WAY wound up in the wedding shows and the ring and all of that stuff. Just try and follow your heart and distract yourself with a different jewelery project than reinventing your ring. I thought I wanted something different like 3 different times , but I settled back down on my original. Go with your gut, take your time and make sure you two are good- because sparkles are only fun when they're not being thrown across the room! Haha :-)

Very well said and I also agree with everyone else. Erings should be not stressful and are certainly not worth losing the one you love and want to spend the rest of your life over.

I can relate to this on at least one level. I had a really terrible situation happen to me where my sister lied to me about a pending proposal, super long winded, but the moral of the story is I was lied to, and as a result I got super e-ring crazy and I started driving my BF nuts with my jewelry banter.

In the end I figured out that he just wanted me to be happy, but to remember that we are on a budget. I only had one shot to make it right, because we're not super well off being in college and all. If I had more dream rings, and we had more money, I'm sure he would love to buy me more. He is all about accomodating, and so am I.

As far as the relationship goes though, I realized that I was pushing him away with all the dress, ring, wedding, talk. Not because he didn't want those things, but because he felt it was becoming a big deal and a lot of hype to live up to, and that is really not our style. Maybe you should get this ring simply as a promise ring, lay off him about the wedding talk, and just work on the relationship from the ground up. It's what I had to do with my BF, and it really helped us.

We are stronger than ever now, and being an insecure person who tends to make my personal problems an "us problem" I understand where you are coming from there. Learn to take things a little less seriously, learn to love jewelry as a hobby and not as an e-ring search, and just enjoy your partner. It's when you stop applying the pressure on the relationship getting "fixed" that things sort of fall into place all because you are just enjoying each others company.