thank you ive explained it and everyone else absolutely loves it

and i think we would have a nameless baby for quite a while LOL, these 2 names have been it for about 3 months and were at an impasse

This is exactly what happened with our second child. Dh wasn't keen on the name I liked but totally caved when he was bron. We actually struggled with naming for all 3 kids. Though, we had an easier time picking our 2 boys names than our girl.

I love the name Braydan! Hopefully your dh will come around too.

Ok, I'm just going to tell the honest truth (which is sometimes dangerous on internet forums, lol). No offense intended, just a gut reaction.

Xander sounds like something you might hear in a pharmaceutical commercial. Maybe because it starts with an X.
*Cue James Earl Jones sounding guy*
"So nothing else has worked to clear up your severe *insert affliction here*. Good news is that there are treatment options you may not be aware of. Xander is effective in 85.68377599377% of cases in a clinical study of patients just like you. You are not alone. Xander can help.
Potential side effects include: mild to moderate gastrointestinal discomfort, possible bleeding after surgery or injury, discoloration of fingernails that may be permanent and development of square kneecaps that could restrict movement."
*Cut to scene with couple chasing playfully on paved path, hand in hand...leaves falling gently while deer eat at the treeline. Sheryl Crow "All I want to do is have some fun." plays in the background.*
*Cue James Earl Jones*
"Isn't it time you started living life to the fullest again? Ask your doctor if Xander is right for you."

Or, it sounds like it is half of Alexander...maybe spoken a sibling whose lack of verbal skills prevent the full pronunciation.

Braydan Alexander... I like that!!

Don't tell your hubby what I said about his name choice...unless you think it will sway him to your side, lol.

Sure they are....whenever junior is in really big trouble. "Braydan Xander, come here right now and clean this room!" I think it has a beautiful ring to it. LOL!

Hey, im my exes family, only middle names were used for the guys. So whatever the middle name was was what the kid was called.

Is the ending of Brayden pronounced Den or Dan?

If the second way, then your husband might think it's too feminine sounding. Or maybe he doesn't want a name in anyway like his.

I think you both best find something else you can live with just to be prepared. It's possible he might cave after the baby is born but he might not and this is not a mountain worth dying on. Because all it will do is cause resentment and anger. It seems if you are willing to consider a second name so should your husband so neither of you will feel forced to accept something you each dislike.

lol, this made me laugh.

I actually like middle names, but not the point. I think you both need to agree... Maybe start looking at other choices together??

My nephew's name is Xander. My kids also have a good friend with the same name. I like it because I am a big fan of Buffy. It's getting really popular. Is that going to sway you towards or away from it?

I think it's important to agree on kids names. But I think that if you come up with a second choice you can still have said baby and say, "oh dh...he just so looks like a...!" And have more leverage.

Dh picked out names for our first two and I picked the third. But I was okay with his first, thrilled with his second and he was quite happy with my third.

Also a huge fan of middle names. I don't love my eldest's but it had a TON of meaning. Our middle is okay, I was outvoted for what I wanted and still hold a grudge. lol. Our third's is awesome.

So definitely keep talking. Come up with more names together. But don't let go of the one you love. Try too to find out why he's not a fan. It's easier to negotiate if you know what the other person is thinking.

I've always liked the name Xander as I have a friend, Alex, who goes by Xander. It reminds me of the name Anders which I like so much!

How much time do you have until the baby comes? Maybe you can put the naming process on hold for a few weeks and he might consider Braydan. What exactly about the name does he not like?

What about changing the spelling of it to Braden? It would still hold the same significance in how you were lead to the name but maybe your DH would like that better? My name came from a combination of a few names of people who were important in my parents lives, yet the result was not a literal representation of the combination - it's the thought that counts and I'm reminded of those people very often.

I would definitely come up with a 3rd name that you both can agree on though - maybe something that can use Braydan as a middle name if he is inflexible. You could bring up the use of Braydan again at a later time as your husband might just need to warm up to it. Eventually it may grow on him!

Sorry if everything is so jumbled and rambles on.. too tired to be posting :P

I, too, wonder if it's the spelling that the DH objects to. I am not a big fan of creative spellings in names myself. If the pronunciation is the same as Braden, I foresee many first days at school, etc where people start out saying it "Bray-DAN" and having to be corrected. If it's the spelling that bothers DH then I would propose the more common form of Braden (actually my nephew's name!) like Bethany suggested.

Of course despite my dislike of creative spellings for common names, I want to use Irish names for our kids, which have wacky spellings and can be impossible for non-Irish speakers to sound out, so take my advice with a grain of salt, lol. But my DH is Irish (as in, born and raised there) so I feel entitled, haha.

I can't agree enough. My husband was the second child and got the "creative name". His entire life he has had to deal with people mis-pronouncing and mis-spelling his name. Some flat out don't even understand and just call him something else entirely. It really drives him bonkers, not to mention makes business very difficult. Nothing like showing up your first day and seeing your name spelled wrong on your name plate. Most often people end up calling him by female names. My name is rather long and formal so everyone seems to need to call me by the first three letters of my name, which results in everyone calling me by a mans name. It drives me bonkers. If we decide to ever have children it will certainly be a battle, we hardly ever agree on names. When discussing names we always ask each other, will it look good on a business card? As well as does it have any room for awful abbreviations or nicknames? My husband is also somewhat old fashioned in the sense that he dislikes gender neutral names, mostly because of how much a pain in the butt his name has been. Also I know this may be a slightly touchy subject..... But my husbands middle name was in honor of his mothers brother who died at a young age and to be honest... It really creeps him out. He dislikes knowing his middle name is to honor someone he has never met. He knows it was done with good intentions but more than once he has said he would much preferred to just take his fathers middle name like they did with his brother.